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Sex questions with Lesley-ann Barrett
2009-04-02 - Lesley-ann Barrett, Gauntlet Sexpert

Column - My boyfriend and I want to try something different and he suggested that we should try sex and foreplay with food. My question is, what are some ideas outside the regular chocolate sauce and whip cream that we could try?
– Tanya

'Well if you like seafood, I was just watching the Sex in the City movie and you could dress yourself in sushi at the table, but everyone is different and you may just be looking for a sweet snack instead of a nude meal. You really have a lot of options with food and you need to figure out what you both find tasty. You also want to be sure that neither of you have allergies or sensitivities, never put anything around your genitals that may cause irritation or an out of order sign. Life savers on the nipples can be fun to taste while you suck and gives a sweeter flavour when performing oral if you travel south. It may take a bit more prep work, but you can core an apple and make rings big enough to go around an erect penis, pour a touch of caramel over top and tada . . . you've made yourself a candied apple, it's even on a stick!
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Erotic resort: tales of lust in Mexico
Bringing a new meaning to the term
2009-03-19 - Lesley-ann Barrett, Gauntlet Sexpert

Column - If you've not been able to experience the energy and adventure of an all-inclusive vacation yet, I suggest that you start saving for next year. The market offers vacationers an assortment of packages to choose from that will fulfill any desire. I recently visited a specifically adults only resort. When my partner suggested it, I did some research and thought it could be a lot of fun for the open-minded or the single. I got in touch with the resort and they met with me for a tour and history while there.

The company, Original Resorts, offers four different themes from family oriented to full-out partner swapping; I thought I was in the swap resort at first and I have to say I don't share well. It turned out we were staying in Desire, an adults-only, topless (in restricted areas), sexy fun place for anyone from age 21 to 81.
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Sexy questions
2009-02-26 - Lesley-ann Barrett, Gauntlet Sexpert

Column - I'm walking with my husband down 17th looking for a place to have drinks on Valentine's Day. We find a place and get comfy in our seats. We notice to the right that a guy and girl are going at it, like I think he was stimulating her under the table. The weird thing was, I was fascinated, I got turned on and I liked watching. Normally this kind of PDA is over the line, but it's almost like on this day everyone gets to play a wild card. This brings two questions: How can I try this without being exposed? And how far is too far?

Sandra
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Questioning threesomes
2009-01-15 - Lesley-ann Barrett, Gauntlet Sexpert

Column - So my girlfriend of three years finally agreed to have a threesome with me. It's been a long-time fantasy of mine and we talked about it until she felt comfortable with trying it out. We went away for New Year's and hung out at this club checking the scene; we decided it would be better to hook up with someone we didn't really know. We found this girl and took her back to our room. The night was great and we had a lot of fun, but she doesn't want to do it again. I don't get it. How can I get her interested in round two?
—Tristan

Since this is a fantasy that could bring irreversible consequences, you should feel happy that your girlfriend went out of her comfort zone to do something she knew would please you. Just because a person tries something new doesn't guarantee they want to keep doing it. Your girlfriend may have felt uncomfortable, wasn't turned on or felt a sense of distance or competition having to share you with another woman. I would recommend that if she has voiced her disinterest in having another threesome, do not continue trying to convince her, as this may lead to resentment. Threesomes can be a great way to add a new sexual element to a relationship, but both parties need to be all in. It's great to hear you talked in detail before it happened. Communication is the most important part of a healthy relationship and it brought you both to fulfilling your fantasy. Keep talking to each other and you may both reveal whole new sexual desires that you can experiment with and can both feel great about. One way to gain some inspiration is by visiting your local sex store and grabbing a game off the shelf. Some of these games are romantic, some are frisky and all of them have the objective of bringing you to orgasm which, in my opinion, is the real reward of any sexual experience.
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Online Only: Babies and sex: not what you're expecting
2008-11-20 - Lesley-ann Barrett, Gauntlet Sexpert

Column - On a recent visit with my partner's family, I wrapped my arms around their sister who is seven-months pregnant-- at this moment I realized that in some cases size really does matter. Sex in the traditional missionary position is an impossibility when you are that far along, it takes creativity and patience to achieve the same erotic results you had before the bump appeared. So is sex okay during pregnancy? What are some of the things to expect and watch out for? Can the baby really get its forehead bruised during a heavy session? With all these questions for new parents there is one guarantee when you're pregnant, you will feel different about sex. Which side of the scale you're on entirely depends on your personal feelings about sex in general.

So, can you have sex while pregnant? Dr. Laura Berman, a registered sex therapist in the U.S. explains that if the pregnancy and the mother are healthy and the doctor has given the go ahead, sex is not only okay but actually encouraged-- the exercise you get while having sex is good for overall health. As well, when a woman orgasms the body releases those feel good endorphins that both she and the baby get to enjoy. Pregnancy lasts approximately 30 weeks, broken into three trimesters. During the first trimester a woman may feel fat, bloated and unattractive to their partner. That combined with nausea and a hormonal roller coaster inside your body may not help either of you get lucky. During the second trimester when your hormones start to calm and the belly starts to look pregnant you may become friskier in the bedroom. As you near the due date and as long as things are going well, partners can have sex right up until the water breaks. If you are getting closer and really just want to get that baby out, there is something in men's semen that doesn't bring on pre-mature labour, but can help jump start the process in some women.
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Dress for sexxxess
2008-11-13 - Lesley-ann Barrett, Gauntlet Sexpert

Column - We are all capable of having sexual fantasies and for those of you that act on them, this article is for you. At least once in your lives you have become aroused by the idea of having sex with someone else or in a place that may be socially unacceptable. The thrills we experience through imagination are completely ours with no restriction or compromise and if we get the chance to act out these fantasies, the reward may be immeasurable. As you scroll through hundreds of pictures on Facebook taken from Halloween night, you may start to think that Halloween is arguably the best celebrated holiday of the year. This day allows us to transform into someone or something completely outside our everyday character, taking advantage of the immense pleasure of living out our personal fantasies. Sexual fantasies in particular are an important part of your overall sexual health. There is a relationship between sexual fantasy and sexual satisfaction, so use all those great ideas and heighten your sexual creativity.

Sexual fantasy is described as any mental imagery that is erotic and arousing to an individual and many members of the population have such fantasies. This can involve sex with another, sex with self or just thinking about the fantasy with no physical stimulation. There should be no reason to pack away all those fun outfits and masks when you could reserve a drawer for them right in your room. For those who are faithfully committed to someone and are finding that over time, sex is not as thrilling as it once was, fantasy and role-play are the common recommendations of most sex therapists. We all have a desire to sometimes jump out of our skin and become someone totally different, why not take advantage of the opportunity with someone you trust.
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Dudes on the pill
The coming of male birth control
2008-10-23 - Lesley-ann Barrett, Gauntlet Sexpert

Column - If modern medicine continues to work on contraceptives, there may be some bad news for day time TV junkies, who will soon have one less Maury Povich topic to discuss with their friends. It looks like we are getting ever closer to the newest form of birth control that in some cases could take the guess work out of paternity testing: the male birth control pill. To date, men have few forms of birth control that are limited to condoms, spermicides, vasectomies or "pulling out." Some perceive these methods as old fashioned, uncomfortable or scary. With the introduction of new options, men will have the pick of pills, gels, patches or implants, just like women.

Researchers have been studying and perfecting the idea of a male pill for over 40 years and they predict that we are still five to 10 years away from it hitting shelves. The pill contains the synthetic hormone desogestrel and they kick it up a notch and add the hormone testosterone. This combination not only blocks the production of sperm, it also makes sure that male characteristics and sex drive stays intact. Clinical testing at the University of Washington shows that the success rate of male hormonal contraceptives can be as high as 100 per cent, with subject's test results showing a sperm count of zero, but this is only if the treatments have any impact. These studies also reveal that 10-15 per cent of males do not respond to treatment, which is a high percentage when you compare it to the less than one per cent failure rate for female birth control.
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Sex and wings
2008-10-16 - Lesley-ann Barrett, Gauntlet Sexpert

Column - Thanksgiving dinner is one example of how food brings all sorts of things together in our lives. This is the time of year where we give thanks for all we have, but really, of the many other things we may want, there are only a few we cannot live without. What we need to stay alive is air, water, food and, in my opinion, sex .

When you combine sex with food you have two basic pleasures that create a "super pleasure" of the senses, better known as aphrodisiac foods. Spanning as far back as the ancient Aztecs, the power of food has been incorporated into our sexual world as an enhancer for, or a representation of, the genitals. It is believed that these certain foods have a physiological impact on the brain due to the release of specific chemicals however, from a scientific standpoint, the concept is vague and has never been proven. Clinical researchers suggest that it is not the food itself, but our conceived notion of aphrodisiac foods and their sexually enhancing properties that makes them work.
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Sex swings
2008-10-09 - Lesley-ann Barrett, Gauntlet Sexpert

Column - You've seen the ads, done the research online and joined the millions of curious sexercizers across the country by investing in a Love Swing. As you stare at it, suspended either by a large hook in your ceiling or held in the air by a portable stand, you anticipate all the possible excitement and can't wait to try this baby out. The freedom of movement and ease of motion means the Love Swing creates a new platform for sex. The different models offered on the market vary from large to small and can be utilized with a number of positions.

Credited for this sexy invention is Richard Klor who "imagine(s) a world where physical joy and spiritual faith are on friendlier terms. Where we celebrate the naturalness of sexual pleasure and sexual union." What an incredible connection you have when you are able to see each other experience the bliss of orgasm eye to eye. Some of the more practical benefits for those that enjoy sex, the Love Swing gives relief to back pain sufferers, assists in prenatal exercises and helps facilitate pleasure to those with physical disabilities. You can also turn the swing into a kinky accessory-- add some ankle and wrist cuffs and poof, now you have the making of a BDSM adventure. With these new furniture pieces ranging from $150-$350, this is one investment worth making.
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Threesomes: part deux
2008-09-25 - Lesley-ann Barrett, Gauntlet Sexpert

Column - The last time we got together I wrote more for male readers and discussed the two women, one man combination of threesomes. Now I would like to help out the women and look at another variation of this three person sexual escapade. This brings us to the two men, one woman combination and, for lengths sake, we will paint the picture with an existing couple and a male invitee-- if you are a woman who enjoys being the centre of sexual attention this may be for you. This combination happens far less frequently than the two women, one man version. Some believe this may be because men instinctively want to spread their seed as far as possible and having sex with more than one woman helps carry on their legacy. But it could also just be plain old horny thrills that drive them to fulfill this fantasy.

Ladies, it may be awkward for you if this is your first time, but even the most daring of us are uneasy when trying something new and exciting. If you're sure this is something you want to do, just relax and have as much fun with it as you are ready for.
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